Day 19 – Seasons of marriage and staying connected

“𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢 𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘭𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘶𝘺𝘴 𝘪𝘵; 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘢 𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘺𝘢𝘳𝘥. 𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘷𝘪𝘨𝘰𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺; 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬𝘴.” 𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘣𝘴 31:16–17

As women with many roles to fulfil, like being a wife, mother, and working woman, we often get caught up in the busyness of life and struggle to support and complement our husbands. Marriage has seasons, and we must constantly adjust to meet each other’s changing needs.

For example, in our 20s and 30s, our focus is often on caring for children. In our 40s and 50s, we face new challenges such as menopause, health, and empty nests. No matter how well we do things, if we neglect giving our husbands the attention they need, and vice versa, we risk growing apart. In our busy lives, it’s essential to stay connected. Knowing your love language helps identify your shortfalls and fosters better understanding between you and your spouse. I encourage you to take the love language questionnaire and discover what truly resonates for you and your husband.

Prayer: Father, I acknowledge that I may have married a husband who is not perfectly compatible with me, but Your Word in Mark 10:9 reminds us, 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘎𝘰𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘫𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳, 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦. As one with You, we pray the truth of Matthew 11:30 over our marriage: 𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘶𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵. Help us to walk in Your will as a godly couple. Strengthen us to support each other, to grow together, and to reflect Your love in our marriage. Thank You for making us one in You. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen. ©

Marie Swanepoel